Hard Rain

I’ve heard so many times from my friends or people that I know, they said, the closer we get to the Wedding day, the more pressures and conflicts that we may confront. I was once wished that the conflict will never get to us. But the fact is, we get more and more conflicts then I expected. It starts from the small stuff that we’ve talked about and we have some different perspective about how to look at the things, from there then comes the conflicts. When someone announces their intentions to marry, the usual (and desired) response is joy, excitement, and immediately going into “planning” mode. Why, then, is there so much stress?

Each of us has some expectations about what our own wedding and the months leading up to it and the years after it will be. We also have varying degrees of flexibility when it comes to change. The process of falling in love, becoming engaged, getting married, and then defining yourself as a “wife” or a “husband” and also as a couple requires a significant amount of adjustment.

Most of us are not emotionally prepared for such a momentous occasion as a wedding. Moreover, since every courtship and every wedding is different, our experience will be unique to us. The goal is not to have a stress-free wedding experience, but a wedding that is both a meaningful experience of our lifetime, and one that we and those involved can handle. Given that a wedding involves a) being asked to make a huge change in one's life; b) making both a decision and lifetime commitment; c) adjusting to our own and someone else’s family; d) being the center of attention.

From the beginning of our wedding plan, we are not expecting everything to be conflict free. Couples need to learn to expect these issues and agree on success strategies to help them work together to manage these in their relationship. Every time that I had a conflict with my fiancée, I always keep one thought in my mind that this is a part of one huge learning process where we can learn about each self.

I got to admitted that in the past few days, I feels like we’re having some real conflicts.
Sometimes I feel like I don’t understand about my fiancée, sometimes I feel like I have so much differences that appears during the wedding plan.

The most disappointed things is that, when I give you something that can be wear together and you don’t like it at all. It’s not about the design or the mistakes that appears in that, but it’s more about the times where I never give you anything so special for you though it’s hard for me to accept the denial, still I have to accepted it. Should we always bear the conflicts that we had? Should we always be like this? Where are the warmth, the love and the sincere feelings that we used to have? I just wished that soon it’ll be over and we can be back to what we used to be………..